We lie. It is a human nature to lie. We lie to cover up things. We lie more to cover up lies. Being in a relationship is more than being physically together, but also the union of the mind and soul. Lies and dishonesty stand between this union, as if they are knives, ready to rip this union apart and shed it to pieces. A relationship is fragile--it doesn't take much to ruin it. All it takes is a small lie.
To rebuild a relationship takes probably ten times more effort than to ruin it.
The lie, however, is not the root of the problem. Most of the time, a lie is used to disguise one's intention and motive. The ill intention or motive is the real problem. And if that underlying problem is not resolved, the relationship will go sour eventually. In trying to resolve the problem, there is no equality--one side has to take the initiative and do more than the other. In fact, the one who's being lied to is often the one who has do more and also take the initiative, because that means forgiveness from the side who is hurt and relationship can only be rebuilt based on this forgiveness.
All things happen for a reason. A trial can only make a relationship grow and get stronger if both sides are willing to give and forgive.
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"To rebuild a relationship it takes probably ten times more effort than to ruin it."
True.
If both of you chooses to forgive and rebuild, it tells that you both still treasure the relationship very much and it's a very good sign.
my cloud nine and I have no problem at all. all these that I wrote allude to my past experience and my recent conservations with my friends.
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