I was never a person who was well like by others. Even when I was in primary school, I knew some of the classmates really didn't like me. Part of it was probably because I always did well in exams... and ppl thought that I was a smart-ass... always wanted to show off. I was probably a smart-ass then, and probably still is. But I never intended to be one and I certainly don't want to be one. The consolation was that in primary 6, a group of girls accepted me into their circle. I know... sounds weird... for a guy to be with a group of girls... yeah I was attracted to one of them but that was another story... nothing really happened. The friendship with those girls were genuine, however. They told me that they thought I was arrogant, but then once they got to know me... they told me that I was actually quite nice to them. Yup... that was my consolation of being rejected by some of my peers at that time. And I knew I was arrogant at times... and I tried really hard to be humble and meek and be really nice to ppl I know. Whether it worked or not I wouldn't know.
To be continued...
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well. i never thought you were arrogant when i first met you in 1995. ah ... i learn something new today.
It's nice of you to say that. Yeah 1995... Man... that was a long time ago.
So JC, your original post didn't say you felt arrogant yourself, but it's how others perceived and thought you were one. I guess may be you should look back and evaluate yourself to see if you actually did something (might not be intentionally) to make them feel that way.
Sometimes I would evaluate my own behaviors towards and look for signs that if I had offended anyone I would correct myself and offer my apologies to them. I also pay attention to other's body languages toward me because body languages don't lie.
My $0.02.
I did self evaluation often. Now to a point where I am now sometimes over doing it.
Back then, I duuno... maybe I was arrogant. I remember that I constantly reminded myself not to. But oh well...
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